Do not ask me to remember...


I see dad almost everyday now.  The only time I don't see him is when I go visit mom early in the morning and he's still asleep.  Some days he doesn't get out of bed until 1 or 2 in the afternoon.  I'm glad that my family and I made the move to be close to him, but it sometimes feels like I was too late.  Too late to have a real conversation with him.  We're able to keep mom from feeling lonely, and helping her with taking dad to his Dr's appointments, but too late to ask dad to remember.  I miss him...

This was posted in the back of an Alzheimer's caregivers practical tips guide that mom gave me to read.

Do not ask me to remember.

Don't try to make me understand.

Let me rest and know you're with me.

Kiss my cheek an hold my hand.


I'm confused beyond your concept.

I am sad and sick and lost.

All I know is that I need you

To be with me at all cost.


Do not lose your patience with me.

Do not scold or curse or cry.

I can't help the way I'm acting, 

Can't be different 'though I try.


Just remember that I need you,

That the best of me is gone.

Please don't fail to stand beside me, 

Love me 'til my life is done.


-Author unknown